I’m sure you’ve heard the words bossy and witch said in a really gross and disempowering way.
But no more.
Being bossy is cool. Being a witch is grand. You just have to learn to work them the right way.
Here are 8 signs you’re a bossy witch and why that’s actually really right on.
You are a natural leader at your day job
You maintain a high standard of work for yourself. You show up, act adult and deliver. They might not like it and they might not always like you, but you can’t help but lead by example.
What you’re going for is respect, not likes. It’s nice when people like you, but at work it’s a little different. You can and do separate your job from you passion.
This saying seems to fit your leadership style:
I didn’t come here to make friends. I came here to win.
Except it’s not “winning,” it’s work.
You fantasize about being self-employed
Work is work and it’s not exactly life-changing or all that deeply fulfilling. Just showing up and delivering will, in my opinion, only get you so far.
That goes for “careers” as well.
You’ve got to channel your inner boss for a greater good, a deeper sense of self-worth by using your creativity and passion for none other than No. 1.
It’s challenging, but that’s how we do.
Starting out is probably the most intimidating part of becoming a bossy witch. I say go micro. Keep your goals big, but scale your projects down to boot-strappable, bite-sizes.
Self-financing your side-hustle is a great way to do something right now about your dream of self-employment. Check out Arriane Serafico’s super-inspiring and practical plan to help you get going on your creative business while working your day job.
And stay tuned to our Bossy Witches series for interviews and events with real people who are turning their goals into success.
Yes, ma’am, you got this.
You stay in to finish a project when everyone else is out
Have you ever turned down an invitation to go out so you can stay in to work on a project? And no one made you do it?
You could go out with your friends tonight, but you know this project can’t and won’t get done on its own.
Not only have you decided what is more important to you — a night out or doing something with more personal significance — you probably had to say no to a friend.
When you decide to skip a hangout to finish a project, you’re setting boundaries and prioritizing what matters most to you.
Staying in to finish a project doesn’t make you a bad friend, it means you’ve got a goal you’re willing to make a sacrifice for.
And you’re going to need to know a thing or two about setting boundaries and prioritizing when you become your own boss.
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You can’t sit still
You’ve done your chores. Everything from washing dishes to prepping your meals for the week and now it’s finally time to sit down and to catch up on your favorite drama.
The opening scene rolls and 2 minutes later you’re searching your phone for the name of that one actor you know you’ve seen in something else before, but you can’t remember what the show was called.
What are you doing? You’re show’s on.
You focus back on your show and then 2 minutes later you’re researching how to make braided rugs and macrame plant hangers.
Maybe it’s a little ADD or could it be the way modern tech is always infringing on our personal time? Here’s another possibility: you need a more constructive outlet for all your pent up energy.
With so many ideas swarming in your head how could you not be drawn by curiosity to gather more information on subjects you want to know more about?
You know, keep it within reason. Do honor your downtime, but also pay attention to your inner voice. Look for ways to channel your energy into productivity.
You write in 2 notebooks daily
I had no idea that someday my love for collecting cute notebooks would turn into a full on love affair with making notes.
Since the beginning of 2015, I’ve kept a dream journal because that’s like free therapy, a notebook for Morning Pages and another notebook for all sorts of Black Widow Balm projects.
If you don’t have a notebook yet, it’s a good idea to keep at least one for all your creative ideas and questions and another for goals and plans. While there are tons of apps you can use to make a list or to help you keep notes, nothing beats putting pen to paper for working out complex thoughts and processes.
Don’t underestimate the magic of writing in any form. Keeping a notebook is a powerful yet simple way to remember better and it’s brilliant for sketching out your rough drafts.
You have ideas on how to improve a product somebody else made
You’re on your way to work, when at a red light you notice a local delivery truck with a company logo on it. Does that delivery truck blend in with all the other cars on the road or do you keep staring at the logo tilting you head, thinking, It’d be a cleaner design if they’d made the logo with a straight font like a sans-serif?
You’d think, if the designers were aware that the logo would be so in your face they’d have enough decency to make it look a little more pleasing!
Maybe you don’t get that offended, but you know how I feel, right?
You can be anywhere, doing anything at all when something someone paid good money to have designed and built to represent their brand jumps out at you because it just looks off.
It dawns on you that it should’ve been done like this and not that.
That habit, as annoying as it might be to friends and family, keeps your eye sharp. Your taste in recommendations isn’t what those designers should’ve done it’s what you have to do to create and then refine again and again until you’ve chiseled out your brand.
You really don’t need anyone telling you what to do
Authority figures. Ugh. Like parents, except they could be or not at all related to you.
It doesn’t matter, bossy witches just don’t really need anyone telling them what to do and probably don’t like people who do.
Instead of focusing on people who are in authority misusing or abusing their authority towards you, I just want to point out that there’s possibly a very good reason you resent authority.
When you’re already a leader and maintain a high standard of work who do you need telling you to step it up?
Well, a mentor, that’s who.
Not too long ago, I thought one had to go out and seek a mentor, like a quest, but once I started my new day job a few months ago I realized mentors are actually everywhere.
It’s all in how you look at them.
Thinking of your boss as an authority figure only puts you at odds with them making them more your rival and rivalry brings out all kinds of complicated situations you’d be better off not getting into.
You, by the way, need to conserve your energy to put into getting your biz together. Streamlined because complicated day job situations are better left to muggles.
You don’t even have the time. Float, witch, float!
But if you choose to reframe your boss as a mentor the whole scenario lightens up a bit.
Especially if your boss is a woman, look to see how she runs things in the workplace. Respect what she knows and try to learn all you can.
After all, she was probably a bossy witch long before you ever were.
Defeat and failure might be 2 of your biggest pet peeves
Never give up. Try, try again.
You’ve heard all the sayings before, but you actually specialize in victory. You could write a book on the subject and you’ve only just begun.
The game is not over because you totally leveled up the last round and earned another mushroom.
Small victories and personal successes add up to big confidence boosters for you. And you’re gonna need all the confidence you can get because your next failure is just ahead.
Unfortunately, there’s always something to harsh your vibe and just when things were getting good, too.
Keep failure as a pet peeve because it makes success so much sweeter. You don’t have to do much. Just keep going.
You might have to revise a plan, end up doing twice as much work, re-schedule a launch or save a little more money now because of something stupid that came along and interrupted you, but you literally cannot fail if you keep going.